Yes! was my answer when Rahul popped the question in early 2016. The proposal was perfect. To be honest, by that time everything was set up for us to get married. We already have told our parents, we already had booked the marriage license appointment and the civil ceremony at City Hall. However, Rahul gave me the experience of getting engage, although we already agreed on getting married before.

The first talk

On New Year’s eve of December 2014, Rahul and I were having dinner at Cucina Enoteca Del Mar. It was an amazing dinner where we talked for the first time about marriage. The talk went from casual to a little bit more serious matters.

Somehow, by the end of the conversation, Rahul and I agreed on being together forever, or in other words: Let’s get married!  Maybe for some, it would not look like a  proposal, but for us, it was a fact: We love each other and we do not need anything else.

Family, Work, and Distance

There was another issue, we were still living in different countries, we had jobs, and our families were pretty different from each other. Rahul comes from a very traditional Indian family, whose believes follow the Hindu lifestyle. In my case, my family was traditional too, but Catholic. Also, we were happy doing our jobs, we both worked for great technology companies, because of that we decided to keep on working despite the distance.

We made up our minds to tell our parents about our decision to get married later on 2016. By then, I already showed my parents some Indian movies (Dilwale Dulhania le Jayenge, Mere Brother ki Dulhan, Dostana, etc), so they already understood a little about their costumes, religion and living style. One Saturday night, while my dad was watching tv, I went to his room and told him: “Dad I have a boyfriend, his name is Rahul and he’s from India. He works in digital marketing and lives in San Francisco. We have been together since 2011 and we want to formalize our union.” Few seconds after, my dad looked at me in the eyes and replied: “I trust you, if he is the right person for you then go for it'” And just like that my parents learned about Rahul.

On Rahul’s side, he already began telling his parents about me and explained to them how we were planning to get married. His parents were concerned about it at first, because of all the difference we will face. But after we met face to face in 2016, they gave their blessing. They are such wonderful people that I cannot imagine getting married to their son without them.

I guess both families were shocked at first, but somehow they accepted the idea that we wanted to be together. The fact that we have differences like religion, costumes, or even clothing was not a big deal for Rahul and me, because our families were very similar at the same time: they are both traditional, have the same values, and family is very important for them.

The proposal

In the end, Rahul proposed to me at our apartment. It was just the both of us, just like the beginning of our relationship. Surrounded by roses and candles, Rahul said: “I never thought I will be doing this ever in my life, but here it goes… You are my bunny, can I be your hubby?” With tears in my eyes and overflowing with emotions, I replied: “Yes!… finally!”; and we both laughed.